I remember the first New Year’s Eve after our daughter’s death. I didn’t want the calendar year to change because that meant I was starting a new year without her. I didn’t want to have new adventures, memories, stories that I couldn’t share with her and it wasn’t the way it was meant to be! That first year I sat and wondered about the ‘what ifs’ and ‘if onlys’ for the coming year.
This is the third NYE that I will move into a new year knowing that she is not on speed dial, not down the street, not physically in my life. I read Psalm 139 through again today. The psalmist tells us in verse 16, “Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them.” NASV
Some people read those words and wrestle with whether God chooses how and when we will die. Does He foreordain or simply foreknow? Others believe God really doesn’t know the future at all; they believe He wonders about the future along with us. For me, there is no comfort or peace in any of those questions.
When I read this passage, I hear that God gave her to us for 29 years and leaving this world simply meant entering His presence for eternity. God wasn’t surprised when she arrived, like we might be by unexpected guests. He wasn’t tidying up and making sure the bed sheets were clean. Jesus told his disciples in the upper room, “I go to prepare a place for you,” and I am sure that on the day she entered Heaven, that place was ready. She was welcomed home.
I am not afraid of leaving her behind anymore. She isn’t gone, she isn’t lost, she isn’t dead. She lives in the place that Jesus prepared for her and she showed up at the exact time that was set for her… which is something she never did in her 29 years on this side of eternity!